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would you hate this family?

my aunt and uncle have two kids, they have a humungous house AND they just remodeled their basement so its a movie room with a little kitchen and an air hockey table which my grandmother gave to them even though their rich they get all the cool stuff from my grandmothers, and every holiday they have brand new cell phones (my cousins that are 10 and 13) and little touch screen gadgets and they have lab tops and everything and theyre bitchy to my grandmother and never help her out, and never thank her for anything because they are SO damn spoiled! is it wrong to DESPISE them and refuse to go to their house for easter? if they acted nice towards my grandmother who practically helped raise them i would not hate them at all

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1. i dont think you despise them, you're probably just jealous. i think it's kind of immature to be spiteful by not going to their house, but its completely fine to be jealous. that sucks though, im sorry =\
2. Yes, hate is a strong word. They are family. And plus, they could donate money to you when you need it.
3. sounds horrible
4. sounds like you are jealous of them. just remember....money is the root of all evils. Just b/c their lifestyle looks great to you, doesn't mean that they are 100% happy with their lives. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Besides, just look at how they live and if you so desire to live like them it will just make you work harder to achieve that goal.
5. well try to to mean to them and be nice to ur granmother and be sweet or listen to ur heart
6. Not wrong to be envious- it's a human trait. To act on it or voice that opinion would be wrong. You should try to think of it in the way that these kids may be deprived in other ways. Do they get love and affection? Does anyone teach them to be thankful? If they aren't taught, they'll never know. Try not to blame them, but their circumstances. Be the bigger person and share with them what Easter is really all about.
7. I wouldnt go over there house but maybe you can talk to them and see what there problem is or something or myabe you can even talk to your cousins and try to get a along with them and ya sure its going to be hard but give it a try
8. Your feelings are neither right nor wrong. Neither are your thoughts. Your actions on the other hand, can be judged. Chalk it up to basic manners. You were invited. They are "family" of yours. What is the protocol for a family invitation in your experience? Generally, we either accept invitations or we dont' accept them and send notice right away so that the host/hostess knows what to expect. So, put your feelings in a box for a minute, and decide, what are you going to do? Good luck! PS Easter is a beautiful holiday that if you are Catholic or Christian or Protestant, should be spent honoring G-d. The all accepting, all forgiving G-d.
9. don't despise them don't be jealous of them, just go and don't get involved, all they seem to have is things, they depend on things for happinesss? try not to care about foolish stuff. have higher aspirations in life, especially at this; of the Reserrection of Jesus, pray to Him! This means He lives ! He died for you- for your sins, go to a good biblical church and think about Him, not them.
10. well that sucks i might feel its not fair cuz they get everything and u dont and what not u might be a lil bit jelly bout them u should still go 2 there house and have fun
11. WOW that alot
12. You do not have to depise them.Just do not go over there.Be nice to your granmother and do things for her and with her.Material things arent everything and you surely cant take them with you when ever you die.Just because they act like that doesnt mean you need to stoop to their level by depiseng them.Arent you better then that? Your grandmother knows who has been there for her and who really loves her.That's all that matters.
13. no because if they are like that and you cant stand them then you dont need to go to there house and that is totally your choice and u need to comfront them about that and maybe they wouldnt be as much like that
14. If I were you I'll send those spoiled rats to hell. I hate people that deserves everything just because they are rich. Those cousins of yours are a bunch a #####. A grandmother is a person who at their age needs help. I have a plan: tell your aunt and uncle what is going on with your cousins and your grandmother, so they can react and punish them for 2 weeks staying in your grandma's house without toys, cellphones, ect. They need to know that there are people that deserves help if they want more, they have to earn it by helping around. And also they have to be thankful. I'm not rich, but I earn what I want by helping and be thankful everyday. Good luck
15. The problem, as I see it, lies within your own perception AND your vocabulary. Let me explain. Hate is love turned inside out. Why have you allowed your love to be turned this way? I think you do not so much h*ate them, but you ARE ENVIOUS...ENVY is one of the sins humanity is cursed with. What I think you are trying to accomplish is to make these folks APPRECIATE HOW BLESSED THEY ARE MATERIALLY. You can't do that if you're not involved with them. We're born into certain families to help us work on our own (not their) shortcomings. These folks show you many things you can learn from and better yourself. It's not our place to change others--only to change ourselves. Please don't use the H*ate word...there's too much of that going on in the world and each of us can turn it around...to LOVE.
16. "DESPISE them" for the way they treat your grandmother? That's a pretty harsh response for their disrespect. Your cousins are the recipients of things provided by someones hard work. Their dad, mom or both are perhaps working so much they haven't taken the time to teach their kids respect for their grandmother. Some RICH kids have not been taught that it's not nice to be show offy and naner naner like. They say "look what I have" with an attitude that says "you poor slob can only dream of owning" and you should be happy for their good fortune. Go see them for the Easter party and pay attention to their mom and dad and how they act. You may go away feeling sorry for the whole lot of them. Possessing things is the lesser part of life and they may not know anything else exists.
17. i'm sorry they are not very nice to your grandmother. the truth is, you can't control how your spoiled relatives treat your grandma. if it causes you such distress that you can't handle being around them, don't torture yourself on Easter? meanwhile, try to remember this -- your cousin's parents are responsible for the monsters they are today! take care.
18. Sounds like you are jealous. You should not hate them or resent them. Money is not everything nor are having material things. The kids may be spoiled now but in the end it could bring them misery down the road. The money and material things may not always be available to them. Someday they may not have Grandma to spoil them and be sorry that they did not treat or appreciate her. Love and be grateful that you have your grandma now while you can. Then you will at least feel that you loved her for all the right reasons. The others will not be able to say that.
19. It is wrong to envy anyone's things. Just be happy with yourself.
20. Sometimes not all family members know everything that goes on between other family members. Those fancy gifts your grandmother gives them may have been paid for with money they gave to her that she really didn't need. My grandmother gave my cousins lesser gifts than she gave to my family. Many years later I found out why. My uncle had borrowed money from her that he never paid back. Either way showing favoritism for one grandchild over another is not right...it happens though. It sounds as though your not going to their house may involve you crossing swords with your mom or dad and that is never a good idea. Just go and take it for what it is...a family get together.