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Parents are too mean?

idk if i'm too sensitive or not but this bugs me everyday. each day i try to go one day without my parents yelling at me but it never works out and all they do is scream and yell at me over stupid things. Today my friend and i were doing makeovers just for fun and I forgot my parents are really strict about make-up. When i came in the door they both start freaking out and my dad approaches me in my room and steps right up to my face and says "if i ever see you with fucking make-up on again i'm slapping you across face you fucking bitch." and then he just continued to call me a slut, whore and a bitch. I'm a good kid, I get good grades and I am very nice and I'm not understanding why they get so mad. I told them my friend did my make-up but they didn't believe me and they thought I did it myself. Are they over-reacting? then today they told me i'm never allowed to drive and get my permit ever.

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To call you names like that is abusive. They have a right to tell you not to wear make-up and you deliberately disobeyed. They don't have a right to call you such dirty names. As for your permit. Don't worry. While all teens like to have it prior to graduating ; you will be able to do it for yourself at 18. They are just trying to lord it over you to show that they are in control. Do they have money problems? If so, they could be taking their frustrations out on you.
Your parents need to chill the F--- out before they start causing emotional damage to YOU! I've seen it all too often when parents dont appreciate how good their kids really are and then they nit pit and nag so much that the kids figure well why try to get good grades ? Why should I behave? Why not just do whatever the F__ I want since I get yelled at regardless. This type of parental behavior breeds rebellion and problems. Maybe you should just be logical with them and say "Mom & Dad, ya know there are kids all over the world who are on drugs, pregnant at 15, drink alcohol, run around and commit crimes, and yet you yell and scream at me for wearing makeup? Why do you do this? This is causing me emotional distress." See how they react. Maybe you'll turn on a light bulb in their head
that is not meaness that is abusive if they call you ames like that you should try to get out of the house as much as possibly you cant do anything about it now you are just going to have to try to hold on tell your 18 you should tell i friend about it and try to get their advice about the problem as well
CALLING YOU FILTHY NAMES IS NOT MEAN ITS ABUSE. HOW OLD ARE YOU? THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR OF LOVING PARENTS. DID SOMETHING HAPPEN TO THE IN THE PAST? I UNDERSTAND THAT THEY DON'T WANT YOU WEARING MAKE-UP BUT AT SOME AGE GIRLS GET CURIOUS AND START TO TRY IT OUT. MOMS USUALLY ARE THERE TO SHOW THEIR DAUGHTERS WHAT IS AND IS NOT APPROPRIATE. THREATENING YOU WITH PHYSICAL VIOLENCE IS ALSO WRONG. MAYBE THEY NEED THEIR EYES OPENED UP A BIT TO SEE WHAT A GOOD KID THEY HAVE. TALK TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS AUNTS UNCLES AND SEE IF THEY COULD HELP. BUT PLEASE DON'T LOSE SIGHT OF YOURSELF IN ANY OF THIS AND DECIDE TO ACT OUT THE BEHAVIOR THEY ACCUSE YOU OF. STAY STRONG AND CONTINUE TO KEEP UP YOUR GRADES AND SUCH. AS FOR YOUR PERMIT DON'T WORRY AT 18 YOU CAN DRIVE WITHOUT A PARENTS PERMISSION. JUST FIND SOMEONE YOU TRUST TO TEACH YOU HOW BEFORE YOU TAKE THE TEST. IF YOU NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK TO TALK TO YOUR SCHOOL COUNSELOR OR SEEK OUTSIDE HELP WHO WILL KEEP YOUR CONFIDENCE. HOWEVER IF THERE IS ANY PHYSICAL ABUSE GOING ON TELL SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY.
They're not just over-reacting. Your father was being abusive. Parents aren't supposed to yell and scream at their kids, and calling you those names would definitely amount to verbal abuse. That said, I noticed that you said you forgot they are really strict about make-up. I, personally, don't see make-up as a big deal; and I really don't see make-overs in a bedroom as a big deal; but since you said they're really strict about make-up I can't help but wonder if you really forgot or if, instead, you took it upon yourself to deem a make-over as "not counting". Since you have parents who are (in some opinions) unreasonable about the harmless thing of a make-over in a bedroom, you may need to realize that, until you grow up, you're going to have to make sure you remember what they don't like. You said, too, that you told him your friend did the make-up. That tells me you thought he'd buy the idea that you were a helpless victim at the mercy of your "evil" friend, who put make-up on you. I think there's a chance they didn't get mad because they didn't believe you. I think there's a chance they got mad because you tried to pass things off as if you were a helpless victim who had no choice. I'm not defending them, and I REALLY hope what you've described them as doing isn't a tip-of-the-iceburg type of thing. In other words, I hope what they did was the worst thing they've ever done - not one of the smaller things among a bunch of more seriously abusive behavior. I think you should find a very trusted adult (maybe a school counselor) to talk to about the whole situation that you have going on in your house. What you described is pretty disturbing to me, and probably a lot of other people on here. In the meantime, though, if they only yell and get like that when you break their rules, make it a point not to break their rules. Yes, they may be unreasonable; but it's only a matter of time before you can be out on your own. Parents often are too stupid to realize that if they have a son or daughter who is a good kid, gets good grades, and is nice, if they get on their back over stupid, little, things their son or daughter will become very angry and/or very disillusioned. Don't let their stupidity turn you into someone any different than a good, nice, kid. Don't keep the fact that you've been called horrible names and threatened with being slapped in the face over make-up a secret either. Even if you don't tell people as if you're "squealing and sharing a deep, dark, family secret"; you can make it very public by acting as if you just take for granted that this is what parents do and talking about it with your friends, family members, and even school officials. That way, you won't come across as if you knew you were squealing when you opened your "big mouth". When you get old enough to move out do it, and remember the names you've been called over something as stupid as make-up. Remember, too, that their behavior is inappropriate, and that you should never, ever, have to take that kind of treatment from anyone else - ever again. Your parents aren't just "mean" - they're cruel and abusive.
wow if this story is true im sorry to say your parents sounds like assholes