Kids Room Tips - How far do you go to give your kids what they want?

How far do you go to give your kids what they want?

My daughter will be 8. On her bday she has requested the following: A hotel room for the night for she and 7 of her bff's. A limo to pick each girl up at their homes. A makeover for each girl at 'Glamour Girls' ($20.00 a person) The price for all is rediculous , not to mention that doesn't cover the cake, gifts, and decorations. She is always so humble and appreciative of everything, but somehow thinks this is a 'normal' party that kids have all the time for their bday's. My husband has told her yes to all of these things, but I think it is overboard! WAY overboard! Isn't there a line to be drawn when giving your child what he/she wants?

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I would draw the line before ever expecting an eight year old to expect so much for a Birthday. She is eight, not 21!
there's a diffrence between giving kids what they want and what they need. she needs a good birthday party so she has those sweet childhood memories, but come on....a hotel room. I'm 16 and i've never had a party like that!!!!
If you've got it - give it to her. If I could afford it I damn sure would. She's 8 - let her be a princess. I remember one time when Tara was about five or six - she wanted the My Size Barbie. The damn thing cost $125. That was a big deal for me. I got it for her. To this day when asked what was her favorite childhood memory - that's it. The moral of that story is - it sounds like her heart's set - make it happen Mom. ♥
Yes, there's always a line to draw. Does your hubby realize how much it will cost? Does he realize that other bills come first? I'd at least cut out the Glamour girls visit. Tell her it's more appropreate age in her teens. I'd even cut out the limo! Decorations shouldn't run to much to decorate a motel room. BUT if hubby already said yes, make sure he's the one up all night at the motel making sure the girls don't cause trouble.
all I can say is wow, the most I get for them is a party hat and a few birthday spankings not really, but that is overboard she is only 8 just think what she'll want when she is 18 put it this way, one of my kids yells and moans that he hates his life and that I am horrible and mean and do nothing for him, mind you he is saying this while sprawled out on his king sized bed, in his brand new shoes while playing video games on his 30 inch TV eating lunch that I made him and brought to him...yet he has it so bad
I have five kids, most times we cant afford to give them what they want till its out of style and we get cheaper. This past Christmas my 9 year old wanted to go see Hannah Montana and the Jonas Brothers in concert I paid out the behind for the ticket. She appreciated it a lot. That's the key when my kids do get something hey take care of it and cherish it because it's not often. I think its a bit overboard in a sense, maybe eliminate the limo and agree to get the motel room and have the parents drop their own kids off and pick them up. As far as the makeover make invitations to say each child needs to bring $30 for makeover and lunch. Most parents will agree. good luck and tell her happy Birthday. below me for admini why would you suggest her child was not normal? That is insane. How do you expect a child not to want adult things when most toys now a days are to complicated for an adult? I think her daughter is perfectly normal in wanting to have a party like she sees most likely daily in the papers. Hannah Montana, American idol, Jonas brothers. Children see these things everyday and it does not make them abnormal to want to be that way. I think any child at any age who dreams of being a Princess is very normal.
PLEASE adopt ME!!! Girl, you are giving way too much as such an early age.
What???? A hotel room for a 7 going on 8 year old! A limo? Over my dead body! Practice this: "No way!" "No, no, no!!" The only present that seems slightly reasonable would be the Glamour thingee. But maybe for just her and two of her friends. What will she be expecting for her 16th birthday? Just say "NO!"
I'm appalled that an eight year old is asking for adult birthday gifts, especially extravagant gifts of this nature. These things would be outrageous for a young adult to expect. If you want your child to be well adjusted now, and later as an adult, you are well advised to decline her these requests. If she cannot thoroughly enjoy a typical children's party with children's games, a nicely decorated cake or cupcakes, ice cream, balloons and children's gifts, there is something wrong. If she is a normal 8 year old, she will be delighted with a party of this nature. Daddy, she has plenty of years to grow up while enjoying her childhood. Don't deprive her of it. Besides if you give her everything she wants, or thinks she wants, you are setting her up for grave disappointment, frustration, and anger as she experiences the real world which will not hand her everything she wants on a silver platter. Giving a child everything she wants is a recipe for maladjustment and disaster. You must be there for her to prepare her for the realities of life. My best wishes go with you.
i give them what they need.